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Talking to the boys about their memories

We recently celebrated our fifth anniversary as a family. Five years doesn't sound very long, but in context it represents more than half Lyall and Richard's lives spent with their two dads. So, it was a big one!

This year our family birthday coincided (within a few weeks) with Grandpa Mark and Aunty Emily's birthdays, Easter and Grandpa Pam's bi-annual visit to the UK. So, quite a celebration! The boys love their family birthday - like the Queen we celebrate our extra birthday with a tasty lunch.

Daddy and Dad, Lyall and Richard celebrating their family birthday at the Old Mill Pub
Family birthday! Left to right - Grandma Jenny, Grandma Pam, Aunty Emily, Richard, Daddy, Dad, Lyall, Uncle Mark

When we adopted Rich and Lyall, they were already old enough to know what was happening and they have memories of their past lives; memories we like to keep alive. With that in mind, we keep a discussion open about the boys' past, especially memories of their penultimate home (with their lovely foster carers) and the early days of their placement with us.

On the school run this morning, I had an interesting chat with Lyall and Richard about their very earliest memories. Lyall's convinced he can remember being born (although I'm sure that's just an effort to beat Richard's first memory), while Richard's earliest memory is eating custard doughnuts on a beach on holiday when he was three. Probing deeper into Richard's memory, he also remembers he was with his foster-carer, Lindsey and Lyall and he vividly remembers the Portuguese man who sold the doughnuts on the beach. Dark curly hair and tattoos, apparently.

Lyall also remembers the doughnuts which is no surprise as he has a photographic memory of everything he's ever consumed on holiday or on a day out since he was about two years old. That's no exaggeration - every time we re-visit somewhere he's been as a little'un he'll surprise us with a detailed account of a blackcurrant sorbet, chicken tikka sarnie or even a bruised apple. It's incredible!

We didn't know the boys before we were placed with them, in fact we don't actually have any photographs or confirmed stories from their pre-threes so Tom and I are fascinated by the boys' first-hand memories.


john adams
john adams
May 31, 2019

I'm just in hysterics about Lyall's memories of food! A very impressive thing to recall. Hope you all had a wonderful celebration. Great timing to have so much of the family together at the same time.


lynn cooper
lynn cooper
May 13, 2019

You guys have come a long way and I'm proud to be a fan of you guys.Watching your videos,captioning them or photos is a fun and exciting thing for me.I live here in Florida in a private assisted living home,come on guys I'm only 66 years old or rather young.I'm a disabled veteran and I do get out and about on my scooter.I enjoy life,nature and YouTube and Instagram,this gives me complete father's mother was born in England and I have on both sides of family English, Scottish, Welsh and Irish.I have always been single in life,I chose this.May you and the boys have the best of life's memories and love and happiness.You guys have brought love and happiness…

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